Friday, May 25, 2007
Advice For The Day
I was going to write out this nice long entry kind of explaining why I haven’t been around much lately....not even all that much in the last year, really but I’ve decided I don’t feel like it because going through it was exhausting enough.
I will give you this little piece of advice though:
Whenever your gut instinct tells you something is not right, even if it’s something small, it’s because your gut instinct is right on. Don’t bother with what anyone else says about you not giving someone the benefit of the doubt or that you’re dredging up feelings from past experiences or even that you’re over analyzing things....if your gut instinct tells you something isn’t quite right in Whoville, it’s because something isn’t quite right in Whoville.
The glorious thing about gut instinct is that no matter how good a liar or how deceitful someone is, (and trust me, there are some out there who are so good at it, do it all the time, they stop realizing when they are doing it), no one can outsmart your gut instinct.
When you get that feeling, don’t even bother trying to think about it with your mind, don’t try to make excuses...don’t let anyone tell you that your gut instinct is wrong because it is NOT wrong. Will you trust people around your more or will you trust what your instincts are telling you? Our instincts are there to protect us and they tell us when someone is wrong. The problem is, we tend to question it and we look to others to weigh in on the situation...and 9 times out of 10? Those questions give answers that are usually very wrong.
Your instinct is not. Maybe you don’t understand what is wrong, maybe you get confused because it doesn’t make sense at all but I’ve learned that some people make absolutely zero sense. Some people do things that make no sense whatsoever; they do not act like normal people and it can throw you off. But your instinct is telling you. And when your instinct tells you, you don’t even really have to fully comprehend the entire situation, just know something is off and proceed with extreme caution. It’s our own faults if we do not listen to those instincts.
And when you get that feeling, time after time after time about one person? You don’t even need to know everything about the situation...just run. Get as far away from that person as possible. If you don’t, you’ll be the one who suffers for it. And they won’t even acknowledge any part of it.
And that’s another piece of advice: Don’t you dare let anyone blame you for everything. That’s one thing I’m damn good at. (I know, incorrect sentence structure, who cares.) I’ve had one person blame me for every thing they did and I took that on, (I was a kid). It took many years for me to stop accepting that blame...well in to my adulthood. And if there is one thing I will not tolerate anymore is someone blaming me for things they did and things they said. It’s not to say both parties cannot have blame because both parties usually do....but for one party to entirely blame the other party? Wrong. Dead wrong. And you do not have to accept it because it’s bullshit.
Personal responsibility people....if you do something, if you say something, you know what you are doing or saying. You know. I will NEVER offer the excuse that someone just didn’t know what their words or actions meant. My aching ass they don’t know. I will grant that maybe they don’t know HOW MUCH it affects someone else but they know damn good and well that it does affect someone and for them to deny that is for them to deny any brain function at all. We have known since we were children, by learned behavior, that every action has a reaction. Own up to the consequences of your actions and words and stop acting like a damn victim all the time.
Nothing makes me sicker to my stomach than someone who declares themselves the victim in every situation. Especially adults. It’s pathetic.
So kids, a recap: Listen to your instincts and not your friends, do not accept blame for everything and if you do or say something that hurts someone else? Act like an adult and accept that you did that. Validate that person’s feelings. You didn’t mean it? Doesn’t matter, validate and learn from it.
Or continue to show your ass to the world thinking you have them all fooled. The only one you are fooling is yourself.
And now, we come to my favorite statement made this week by someone I know: “Smart enough to be a lawyer but dumber than a box of rocks.”
Remember kids, just because someone has a certain job or drives a certain car or wears certain clothes or has certain amounts of money...it doesn’t mean they are upstanding members of society.
Oh and one last thing: You all hate drama...you hate conflict...you hate all that shit right? The next time you start whining about how there’s too much drama, check yourself and see what part you had to play in it. Don’t be an asshole, do not disrespect, do not take for granted, stop fucking lying, be upfront and honest and forthcoming and treat people the way you wish to be treated. Guess what? You just knocked the drama possibility percentage down to 1%.
So, now that I have that out of the way, I am hoping to share some other things going on but I want to wait just a little bit so as not to jinx it. But if all goes my way, it’s going to be sweet.
